Single During the Holidays
4 min read · 中文版
At holiday time the streets are full of lights and couples, and your feed is full of family dinners. On your own in Canada, with family overseas, loneliness can feel sharper. A holiday doesn't have to be spent with a partner to count; with a little planning, you can have a good one.
Plan ahead; don't wait for the day
Arrange with friends who are also staying in town: hot pot, dumpling-making, or a potluck where everyone brings a dish.
Many Chinese associations, churches, student groups and community centres hold holiday dinners and events; sign up early.
Connect with family
Agree a video time with family back home and share a holiday meal over the call. Mind the time difference.
When relatives ask when you'll marry, smile and move on. Our guide to family pressure has ideas.
Give yourself a ritual
Cook something you love, decorate your room, watch a film you've been saving, or go to a light display or skating.
Volunteering is another option. Helping others eases loneliness a great deal.
Look after your mood
Feeling lonely at the holidays is normal. Spend less time on social media and don't compare your everyday with other people's highlights.
If you stay low, talk to a friend you trust and seek professional help if needed. Our guide to enjoying being single may help too.
Frequently asked questions
Should I hurry to find someone before the holidays?
There's no need to rush for a date on the calendar. Relationships started under pressure tend to be shaky; stay open and let it happen.
Is it awkward to go to a gathering alone?
Lots of people go alone. Bring a small snack and say hello to whoever's next to you; conversation follows quickly.
Are the holidays a good time to meet new people?
Yes. There are plenty of events and people are in the mood to chat. Our guide to meeting new people has more.
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