Enjoying Being Single
4 min read · 中文版
Friends are pairing up and getting married, family keeps asking, and being single can make you anxious, as if you're falling behind. But being single isn't a blank page in your life; it's a time to get to know and look after yourself. Living well on your own also helps you feel at ease when the right person comes along.
Where singlehood anxiety comes from
Often from comparison and outside voices: friends all have partners, relatives ask when you'll marry, social media is full of couple photos.
Recognising that the pressure comes from outside, not from you being "not good enough", eases a lot of the anxiety.
Invest your time in yourself
Learn a skill you've always wanted, pick up a hobby, plan a trip or set a new goal at work.
Look after your body and mood: regular sleep, exercise, seeing friends. All of these help you like who you are now.
Nurture your other relationships
Friends, family and community are important support, and being single gives you more time for them.
Community events and hobby groups are great for meeting new people too. Our guide to meeting new people has more.
Stay open to love
Enjoying being single doesn't mean ruling out a relationship. Stay open, and when someone right comes along, get to know them.
If family keeps pushing, our guide to family pressure can help you explain your own thoughts and pace calmly.
Frequently asked questions
Is something wrong with me for being single so long?
No. People are single for many reasons, like focusing on work, moving to a new city, or simply not meeting the right person yet.
Will I forget how to be in a relationship?
No. Communicating and being together can be learned as you go. Our guide for people who've never been in a relationship can help.
How can I spend weekends alone without feeling lonely?
Plan some regular activities, like sport, a class or meeting friends, and also enjoy quiet time reading or walking on your own.
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