How to Move On After a Breakup
5 min read · 中文版
Whoever ended it, losing a relationship hurts. Not sleeping, not eating and rereading old messages are all normal reactions. Moving on takes time, but a few things can make the road a little easier.
Let yourself be sad
Heartbreak is real, and you don't need to pretend you're fine. Crying, writing it down or talking with a trusted friend all help you work through it.
Everyone heals at their own pace. Don't compare yourself with others or blame yourself for taking time.
Give yourself some distance
Right after a breakup, it helps to limit contact with your ex and spend less time on their social media. Keeping tabs on them makes it hard to heal.
If there are belongings or shared matters to sort out, try to settle them in one polite, brief conversation.
Look after your daily life
Eating, sleeping and exercising regularly sounds simple, but it's the foundation of feeling better. Getting outside and into the sunshine helps too.
Do things that make you feel fulfilled: learn a new skill, see friends, plan a short trip, and find your own rhythm again.
When you're ready to start again
When thinking about the relationship brings more calm than pain, and you're no longer looking for someone to fill a gap, you may be ready to meet new people.
If the sadness lasts a long time and affects your work or daily life, consider talking to a professional counsellor.
Frequently asked questions
How long does it take to get over a breakup?
There's no set time; it depends on how long and deep the relationship was and how it ended. What matters is that you're slowly getting better, not how fast.
I keep wanting to contact my ex. What should I do?
When the urge comes, write down what you want to say and wait a day before deciding whether to send it. Think about what you really hope to get from it. If you're considering getting back together, our guide on that may help.
Is it a good idea to start dating again straight away?
If it's only to forget your ex, a new relationship is often unfair to both of you. Starting again once you've healed makes it easier to meet the right person.
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