Dating While Unemployed or Job Hunting
4 min read · 中文版
Being laid off, changing fields or graduating without a job yet is common in Canada. Many people feel they aren't "good enough" to date during this time, or don't know how to bring it up. Your job status is temporary, and it isn't all of who you are.
Your job isn't your worth
The right person cares about your character, attitude and how you are together. A job search also shows how someone handles difficulty.
If you're in a bad place, it's fine to focus on the search and meet people when things settle. Neither choice is wrong.
How to tell them
You needn't spell it out in your profile, but when work comes up, be honest: "I'm looking for a new role at the moment, in..."
Sharing your plan and what you're doing reassures more than being vague. Don't invent a job to save face.
Dates needn't cost much
A walk, a park, an exhibition or cooking together all make good dates. Say honestly that you're watching your spending; serious people understand.
For more ideas, see our guide to low-cost dates.
If you're already a couple
The one out of work often feels guilty and anxious, so support matters: listen more, push less, and don't compare them with others.
Talk openly about money, such as how to share costs for now. Our guide to money in relationships can help.
Frequently asked questions
Will a date look down on me for not having a job?
Some may mind, but serious people care more about your attitude and plans. Someone who writes you off over a temporary situation isn't right for you anyway.
Should I wait until I have a job before dating?
It depends on your energy and mood. If the search is stressful, focus on it; if you have room, meeting people can be a source of support.
My partner lost their job. How can I support them?
Listen, recognise their effort, help with their resume or interview practice, and look after your own feelings too.
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