Dating a Chinese Woman: A Respectful Guide
If you're not Chinese and you'd like to date a Chinese woman in Canada, the most useful advice is also the simplest: get to know her, not an idea of her. Here's how to start well on Huaren Love and beyond.
Start with the person, not a stereotype
Chinese women in Canada are as varied as anyone else: students and surgeons, newcomers and people born here, Mandarin speakers, Cantonese speakers and people who mostly speak English, with roots in mainland China, Hong Kong, Taiwan, Malaysia and elsewhere.
Openers about her ethnicity or her looks ("I've always liked Asian women") come across as being about a type, not about her, and they're an easy reason not to reply. Ask about what's actually on her profile: her work, her city, what she does on weekends.
Be clear about what you want
Members on Huaren Love state a relationship goal on their profile. Read it, and be honest about yours from the start. If she's looking for something serious and you're not, saying so early is the respectful thing to do.
Family can matter a lot
For many Chinese Canadians, family is closely involved once a relationship turns serious. Take a genuine interest, be patient, and let her decide when and how you meet her parents. Our guide to meeting the parents covers what to bring and what to talk about.
Language and pace
She may be more comfortable in Chinese, or in English; follow her lead, speak plainly, and check you've understood each other. Learning a few words of Mandarin or Cantonese is a nice gesture, but don't perform it.
Plenty of people prefer to get to know someone before moving fast. Chat in the app, do a short video call, then meet somewhere public. Let the pace be one you're both comfortable with.
Stay safe, and know the scams
Romance scammers often use stolen photos of Chinese women to target men who aren't Chinese. Video before you meet, never send money or "invest" on someone's advice, and report any profile that asks. Our article on fake profiles explains the pattern.
More for people who aren't Chinese → How to spot online dating scams →