Dating as a Single Parent
5 min read · 中文版
As a single mum or dad, life tends to revolve around your children and work, with your own love life coming last. But you deserve love too, and you can start again. Dating with children takes a little more planning and thought. Here are the questions that come up most.
Look after yourself and your children first
Before you start dating, ask whether you're ready: have you worked through your last relationship, and has your children's life settled down?
Dating needn't take much time. When the kids are at school, with their other parent or with family, a short meetup is enough.
Should you mention your children from the start?
Mention them in your profile or early in your chats. Your children are a big part of your life, and being upfront helps you find someone who truly accepts that.
You can share their rough ages and your schedule, but keep details like names and schools private early on to protect them.
When should they meet your children?
Not too soon. Wait until the relationship is steady and you're sure they're serious before introducing them to your children.
Keep the first meeting relaxed, like a trip to the park or a simple meal. Give your children time, and don't expect them to warm up straight away.
Finding the right person
The right person respects your responsibilities as a parent, understands your schedule and is happy to get to know your children gradually.
If someone is impatient with your children or makes you choose between them and the relationship, take that seriously.
Frequently asked questions
Do dating sites work for single parents?
Yes. Chatting online first saves time, and your profile lets you explain your situation and find someone who is just as serious.
My child doesn't accept my new partner. What do I do?
Give them time, listen to how they feel and don't force it. A new partner needn't act like a parent; being a kind adult in their life is enough to begin with.
Will my ex object to me dating?
Your love life is your own, but where the children are concerned, keeping necessary communication open with their other parent is better for them.
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